Love does not seek its own.

What is Love?

Love does not Seek its own. 

     Is there any difference in the phrase "seeks it own" and "selfishness"? I think these are essentially the same thing. "Seek its own is actually a good definition for selfishness. What is the meaning of Love does not seek its own, 1 Corinthians 13:4. Have you heard this saying from a man before, "I do not want you, my wife to work again, be  a house wife". Have you asked her if she will be happy about this arrangement of yours?

     The idea is that love does not focus on personal desires. It is not eager to increase possessions.  True love rejoices when other's are blessed. Love does not seek to benefit itself and it is content with what it has, because its focus is on meeting the needs of the loved one. When one does not seek its own, he loves with no intention of self ambition or conceit"

     We have to learn to be happy for our partner and be happy for each other. We should also learn to surprise our partners, for them to feel special and this leads to a happy  relationship. Now, that is what makes love beautiful.

What is love? Love does not behave Rudely.

What is Love?
Love does not behave Rudely.
     To be rude is to be offensively impolite or bad-mannered. How will you feel if your loved one (family,friends and partner) or a stranger behaves rudely towards you? To embarrass your loved one among people is being rude. When someone offends you, find a place where you can speak to him privately rather to speak to him publicly. When you do the right thing, it shows how ladylike or gentlemanly you are. I believe you think you have never been rude. Doing these often, shows that you are rude.
     Offending someone and not having the decency to apologise by saying "I am sorry", simply means you are rude. Asking someone to help you, and by refusing to say the word "Please", indicates that you are rude. A favour has been done for you, and refusing to say "Thank you", shows you are rude.  To be sophisticated does not mean you are affluent, it rather shows one is polite and good-mannered.
     I know one way or the other, we have been rude to someone. Let us take this opportunity to correct them, by learning how to ask, by using the word "Please", apologising by saying "I am sorry", and by appreciating someone for what he has done, by saying "Thank you". This makes the world become a better place to live in, when we do these, love has been exhibited.

Love does not Parade Itself.

 What is Love?

 Love does not Parade itself.

     I thought parade was only a procession of people or vehicles moving through a public place in order to celebrate an important day or event. When I read "love does not parade itself" from the Bible, 1 Corinthians 3:14. It implies that love is not boastful or it does not display ostentatiously.

     Hmm, that is interesting. This means that when you love your family, friends and partner, you shouldn't force your opinions on them. You should rather learn to accommodate each other, and listen to your loved ones opinions on issues.

      For a relationship to blossom, it depends on the humbleness from both partners. Being humble towards your partner doesn't make you a fool. Instead, it shows the love you have for your partner. Loving humbly, blossoms the relationship and makes one happy and fulfilled. Now, that is Love.      

What is Love?

Love does not envy.

     In the last article, I wrote about why kindness is considered love. Today, I'll talk about why is not envious... "not to be envious", 1 Corinthians 13:4. Envy is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities or luck.  Jealousy is also an act of enviness. "Surely vexation kills the fool, and jealousy slays the simple", Job 5:2.

     Do we understand why a husband or wife can kill their partner? Well... sometimes it is because they are envious of their partner. If you love someone, you have to be confident of that individual. You need to be happy for your partner and encourage them to be more than they are.

     Be proud and supportive of their possessions, qualities or luck. If we're able to do this, then we can boldly say that we love and we are not jealous or envious of our family, friends and partners who are more advantaged than than us in one way or the other. "Love does not parade itself". What does that mean? Watch out for this and more on the next write-up.

                 "Missing" Definition of Love.
               What is love? Last weekend we had the opportunity to have a look at what  long suffering in love was all about.  Today,in my write-up,I will focus on what Kindness is about in love. Kindness is the quality of being friendly,generous and considerate. In Galatians 5:22,it states kindness as being part of the fruit of the spirit.
                 Being in love with someone shows that you have to be friendly,generous and considerate towards that person. Be helpful to that person and be able to communicate to that person easily. One has to do everything possible not to harm his partner,whether physically,emotionally or spiritually.
                   When you're doing all these (being friendly,generous and considerate) to your partner,it shows that you are kind to her and you love her. This is love.